Is Your Dog Being Stubborn? Probably Not.
One of the most common things I hear from dog owners is: "He knows what I want, he's just being stubborn."
It's an understandable conclusion. After all, your dog sits perfectly in the kitchen, but suddenly seems to have forgotten everything the moment you step outside. Or perhaps they come running when called at home but completely ignore you at the park.
It can feel like they're deliberately choosing not to listen.
The reality is usually much simpler: dogs aren't being stubborn. They're responding to the situation they're in.
Dogs Don't Generalise Like Humans
Humans are remarkably good at taking a skill learned in one place and applying it somewhere else. Dogs are not.
When your dog learns to sit in the lounge room, they haven't necessarily learned to sit in the backyard, at the park, at the beach, or when another dog is nearby.
To us, "sit" is always the same behaviour.
To your dog, the environment changes everything.
This is why professional trainers spend so much time helping dogs practise skills in different locations and around different distractions.
Distractions Are Hard Work
Imagine trying to complete a complicated maths problem while someone is playing loud music, another person is asking you questions, and your favourite TV show is playing on a screen beside you.
You could probably still do it, but it would take much more concentration.
That's what many dogs experience when they're out in the world.
Other dogs, people, smells, wildlife, moving vehicles, and exciting environments all compete for your dog's attention. If they struggle to respond, it doesn't mean they're being difficult. It often means the environment is simply too challenging for their current skill level.
Emotions Affect Learning
A dog who is excited, worried, frustrated, fearful, or over-aroused will often struggle to respond to cues they know well in calmer situations.
Think about the last time you were stressed or overwhelmed. Did you perform at your best?
Dogs are no different.
If your dog is barking at another dog, pulling towards something exciting, or worried about a new environment, their brain is focused on that situation first. Learning and responding to cues becomes much harder.
Pain Can Look Like "Disobedience"
Sometimes a dog's behaviour changes because something hurts.
A dog who suddenly stops sitting, becomes reluctant to come when called, refuses to jump into the car, or appears less responsive may be experiencing discomfort.
Research consistently shows that pain can affect behaviour, learning, patience, and emotional responses.
If your dog's behaviour changes suddenly, a veterinary check-up is always a sensible first step.
What To Do Instead
Rather than asking: "How do I make my dog listen?"
Try asking: "What is making this difficult for my dog?"
This small shift in perspective often leads to much better outcomes.
Consider:
Is the environment too distracting?
Have they practised this skill here before?
Are they feeling worried or over-excited?
Could they be tired or uncomfortable?
Have I made the task clear enough?
When we view behaviour as information rather than defiance, we can support our dogs much more effectively.
The Bottom Line
Most dogs are not trying to be difficult.
They're doing the best they can with the skills, experiences, emotions, and physical wellbeing they have at that moment.
By focusing on understanding rather than blaming, we build stronger relationships, create more successful training outcomes, and improve our dogs' welfare along the way.
And that's something worth sitting for.
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